Month: June 2013

The Hard Truth

The penis is a mysterious, magical organ.  (Chances are, you’re already a fan), but because you don’t have the appendage yourself, it can be tricky to figure out how to get, and keep, it happy.  The deeper you’re understanding of how it works, the more satisfied and connected you’ll both feel.  With that in mind, listen to what his penis would say if it could speak up for its owner. “You can help me when I’m nervous.”  Few issues have a more chilling effect on a between the sheets session than performance anxiety.  Sure, there are medical reasons your guy may peter out mid-act-including diabetes, heart disease, hormonal disorders, and side effects from medication-but nine times out of 10, the leading cause of penis failure is between his ears, not his legs.  Self-doubt travels from the brain to the penis in a flash, so whether you are with a man for the first time (and you’re an unfamiliar partner to him) or he feels pressure to measure up to some hypothetical sexual standard, his penis may let him down.  Once he starts worrying about whether he’ll be able to get or stay hard, he may become clumsy, or forget about doing the things that excite you, or become too distracted to even feel the kisses and strokes you’re bestowing upon him.  You know the result. When you sense he’s...

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Don’t Judge Me Part 2

Yesterday we left off where Alice was in a dilemma as to whether to tell Jeffrey about her recent visit to the doctor and if she would end up canceling her wedding, losing Jeffery or just slipping away and keeping her deep dark secret to herself. Today, it’s raining and everything appears to be so gray.  Yesterday I had a beautiful life.  I was on top of the world.  Today, I feel like someone has pulled my life from under me and I don’t know which way to turn.  No matter what happens, I have to take control of this situation. It’s 6:00 pm and Jeffery just arrived home.  How’s my favorite girl?  I missed you so much today.  Listen, I spoke to my mom and she tells me that she can’t wait to get here.  She wants to arrive early so she can help with all the planning and hopefully take some of the weight off of your mom.  That’s great replied Alice, I’m really looking forward to finally meeting her.  Jeffery, I have to talk to you about something that’s really urgent.  What is it Alice, replied Jeffery, tell me.  Jeffery, I’m HIV positive.  Jeffery almost fell off his feet, what did you say?  I said, I’m HIV positive, replied Alice.  Who told you that?  How do you know?  I went to the doctor for my yearly...

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The Odd Body

What are goose bumps, pins and needles, and side stitches?  The truth behind 3 of your body’s physical quirks – and easy moves that leave you feeling your best.  Let’s call them out and see if we agree: 1.       What causes Goose Bumps? Goose bumps (scientific name: piloerection) pop up when you’re cold or afraid.  A tiny muscle at the base of each body hair contracts; together, they appear as naked bumps on the flesh.  They made sense eons ago, when humans still had a natural “fur coat.” Back then, fluffing your ruff would warm the body by trapping an insulating layer of air between the hairs.  And standing your hair on end was intimidating to predators or enemies (picture a cat facing off with a dog).  Evolution has since stripped humans of their pelts.  Now goose bumps are, of course, no medical issue.  If you’re uncomfortable showing off your vestigial physiognomy, dress warmly, place yourself in calm environments, and avoid horror flicks. 2.       Why Does Chopping Onions Make you cry? When you cut into an onion, you rupture its cells, releasing enzymes that produce a gas called propanethial sulfoxide.  Once that gas reaches your eyes, it reacts with tears to produce a mild sulfuric acid.  And that hurts.  The brain then signals the eyes’ tear glands to produce more liquid to flush the stuff out.  The more you...

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Don’t Go Changing

You have the perfect mate, well, almost perfect so you’d like to think.  You’ve been with this mate for 10 years and you’re thinking to yourself, ten years have passed and we are still together.  I can finally take off my shoes and relax.  The chase is over, I’ve got him now.  My story is going to have a happy ending, wrong, you might just be on your way out.  From the female point of view, when we find the man of our dreams, we work hard to get him.  We go out of our way to ensure that his every need is met.  Things that we swore we would never do, we end up doing.  Cooking, cleaning, picking up his laundry, whatever it takes, we are there to fulfil that need.  The reality is, there is a shortage of men, and we are desperate so when we do find a good man, we hurry to put our game plan into play.  The challenge is there and we are going to make it.  There are quite a few obstacles that we have to face but we are ready and willing to go the distance.  We know that there’s the other woman just waiting for you to give up so that she can step in and take over where you left off.  So all the love and understanding you’ve put...

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Good Food Good Meat Getting Late Let’s Eat!!

Down Boy!  Do you want more oral sex but feel weird about asking for it?  The truth is most guys really want to go downtown – some just need to be pushed a little. It has been said that all’s fair in love and war, but when it comes to oral sex, things just aren’t.  A full half of twenty-something guys revealed that they had received oral sex in the past month, compared with just over a third of women, per a recent study done by the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.  While two-thirds of the survey said they wish their mate would go south more often, 49 percent are too shy to make the request.  It’s time to even the score, sisters! What’s Holding Him Back?  Before you can get him down to business, you need to figure out why he’s been lax.  Chances are it’s not because he’s lazy.   Mixed Signals – Nearly 63 percent of guys in a recent men’s health survey said that what keeps them from going down on a woman is her “no thanks” vibe.  It could be that if you turned him down during your period or immediately post-gym, your guy may have gotten the impression that you’re not into oral sex at all.  So clear things up.  After the next time you take a trip downtown, during the afterglow,...

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